When a child learns to walk and falls down 50 times, he never thinks to himself ‘Maybe this isn’t for me?’
No. He thinks of how amazing it felt when he managed it, the feeling of euphoria when he balances on his own and actually walks a few steps; he focuses on that and repeats this exercise again and again until he’s got it!
This is what Mr. Cuddles is going through at the moment and his perseverance is admirable. He doesn’t listen to naysayers, he focuses on his goal and quietly continues. The look on his cute little face says it all! MashaAllah.
I love this quote.
When we want something so badly, what makes us decide to give up?
Maybe the thought that we won’t get it in the end. A thought that we’re wasting time and that time is precious? That we could use this time to do something that gave us immediate material benefits i.e money?
I implore you to not give up the dream! Perseverance pays! Maybe not in monetary benefits but like somebody once said to me it pays to make time for your hobbies. It gives you a chance for self care, maybe a chance to learn something new. Who knows? Maybe you’ll find doing something you love and trust me, it’s a bonus to get paid for it.
So continue, continue, continue until you get where you want!
Allowing negative opinions to dominate is also something that can stop you pursuing your dream. Those negative influences maybe very close to you, they may love you and want the best for you but also, are brought up to be realists rather than dreamers. They like to see hard facts in front of them before they take a leap into the unknown. They don’t see the benefits of pursuing a dream until the benefits of doing so are reaped. Beware of letting these people affect your enthusiasm! The day they are waiting for will come.
There’s a fantastic poem for those who wish to pursue a creative hobby or passion. Read the panel on the left and then read both panels from left to right.
If read the right way the message is to get an actual job doing what you love and you can change the world! It’s very clever, isn’t it?
So the message in today’s post is to believe in yourself. Don’t just be a talker, be a doer! One who is full of action and not just words. Many studies have been done to show that talking about completing a job actually inhibits it’s completion. Your brain computes that you’ve achieved the goal when you talk about it so that initial feeling of motivation that you have is actually wasted on talking!
The interesting thing about this particular research by psychologist Art Markman is that it also shows that if we identify ourselves as having a hobby or pursuing a career path without being specific about what we’re doing we’ll be more successful in the long-run.
I’ve noticed this with two of my hobbies.
I would say that the most important lesson I learnt on the first Writing Course I completed, as an adult, was the fact that I was a writer. Not an aspiring writer. Maybe an aspiring author but the writing thing, if I was writing regularly, was now part of my identity. And that is what helped me develop as a writer. I no longer felt embarrassed or pretentious getting my pad and pen out to jot something of interest when out and about. No longer do I get weird stares with those nearest and dearest to me (Oh! She wants to be a writer!). Instead I get validation that this is what they expect as this is simply what a writer does.
The second hobby this has helped with is singing. By saying I am a singer and love to sing, I’ve been able to connect with other singers and have shared my passion with the most unlikely people (new friends) and also sometimes in the most unusual places (at a mendhi when the ladies ran out of folk songs for a few minutes! hehe). It always pays to identify yourself by your passions. You’ll be able to learn new things and share with whoever you meet, wherever you go.
Just yesterday I met fellow blogger whilst holidaying in Mid-Wales. I wouldn’t have learnt lots of new things about blogging and writing had I not identified myself as a writer. Also people take your passions more seriously when you do this, which in turn makes you take yourself more seriously.
So, have you ever found your motivation deteriorating after explaining exactly what your goals and ideas are to somebody? Do you see a difference once you’ve identified yourself as somebody? Does it help you succeed in what you want to be? Let me know your thoughts on this.
So that’s it from me for now,
Until next time,
Peace and Love,
PS To help me on my journey to enoughism I will write down 3 things I am grateful for at the end of each post. These are:
- I’ve got some fabulous news to share! I am sooo pleased and excited to announce that I have been offered a publishing contract with Beacon Books for a Self Development Book based on my blog The7ofus.blog AlhamduLillah! Praise the Lord! 😁💖😁💖😁!!! Keep going guys! Dreams can come true!! 💫
I am absolutely so grateful for holidays, especially Welsh ones! International holidays are few and far between